A Time for Change, Again?

colorful_change_1_copyI often find the use of quotes  overdone. We see them everywhere. On coffee mugs, journals, magnets, Facebook posts, tweets, greeting cards–you get the picture. At every turn we’re bombarded with quotes that say to us, “you’re great,” “don’t stop dreaming,” “don’t give up.”

This saturation has turned me off to their usefulness and applicability in my life. However, for every rule, there is always an exception. Over the past year, one quote has rolled round in round in my head:

“Be the change you wish to see in the world.”–Ghandi

Now, I’m no new agey, hocus pocus kind of girl, far from it,  but I do believe in change, no matter how small or big.

The “change” quote as I like to call it began talking to me last spring when I ditched my car for a summer experiment, turned year challenge to live car-free. Thirteen months later and still with no car,  the volume on the quote is getting louder, telling me to change again.

I look around me, my lifestyle, the world, the environment and wonder what do I need to change? And in our over-connected, constant noise world we live in, I am not short on options.

  • Reduce or cut off cable TV. This is a hard one for me as I love channel surfing, yet, I am discovering that this mindless act leaves me zapped of time to fulfill dreams. After all, how many repeat episodes of “Friends” or “Two and Half Men” do I need to see? It’s just noise. Or does watching people arguing over the IRS scandal on Fox News change my everyday life? No, it just adds stress to it.  This one feels like a no brainer, but when you grew up with the TV as your babysitter it’s hard to ween yourself away. Nonetheless, I’m thinking of it. 
  • Leave Facebook. This one’s been rattling in my head for the past six months. The ah-ha moment for me was asking myself, “how do you feel when you visit the site?” Frankly, not so good, yet I keep doing it.  For me, it’s “emotional cutting.”  And yes, maybe it’s a personal issue I need to deal with, but the Facebook lives and personas that people project are just one side to a multi-dimensional coin. If we were true friends, wouldn’t I be involved in more parts of your life and know the “dark and ugly” side of your life too. And while people say, “just quit,” this one does take some time to get your head around. It may not be an all or nothing approach, but possibly some middle ground. I do like the photos. More thinking required here.
  • Eat better.  Another hard one for me because I hate to cook, but if I stopped my time watching TV and on Facebook, possibly I could find more joy in preparing meals. Even as I write this, I’m skeptical because I find little joy in grocery shopping or cutting vegetables, but possibly if I practice, develop a routine, and gain some successes, I’ll discover I’m not as bad as I think.
  • Remove the clutter. Whether it’s your closet, your kitchen cabinets or the files on your computer, after a while it all adds up and is suffocating. Living by a principle of what do I need today, what’s the life I’m living today, not the one I want to live or the one I use to live, but the one I live today. With this attitude I can ditch all the stuff that’s cluttering my closets and cabinets and release the old life or the future life and just live today. After all, God tells us in James, “you do not know what tomorrow will bring.”

I have a lot to think about and while these are hard things to implement, I’m optimistic that  the change(s), whatever the choice(s) will yield great things. If I’m ever in doubt, I just remind myself that living a year without a car has yielded great savings to my budget, but more importantly to my well-being of living without the headache of maintenance.  In that vain, I can only be sure of positive results, so why hesitate? That’s the big question. 

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Handygirl for Hire

I’m pretty damn stubborn and when I set my mind to something, 99% of the time I’m gonna do it.  And home repairs are no exception.

Some of you may recall a few years back, I spent an entire Saturday installing a ceiling fan all by myself (fortunately, I’m very flexible and can use my toes and feet to do the work of extra people).

My new challenge: the bathroom sink, which cracked after I dropped a canister on it. And note, I only have one bathroom, so the necessity to get this right in a day’s time to avoid  brushing my teeth in the kitchen sink or shower was important to say the least.

Well, I’m happy to report that I can now add installing an under counter bathroom sink into my repertoire of skills.  Think I can get a job as a handygirl?

 

 

 

 

 

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Adding the Savings from My Car-Free Year

I made it! I managed to live 365 days without a car. What started out as a summer experiment turned into a challenge to live one year without the headaches of car ownership.

Even with a scooter for quick errands, living without a car doesn’t come easy in an area where there can be rain for days on end, hurricane force winds, blizzards and at times Arctic-like temperatures. These are the days when you dream of heated seats and a roof over your head so you can go out and get that box of Fruit Loops you’ve been craving for the past two days.

But no, when you’re car-free, the weather is often your enemy to getting out of your house for nothing more than to say “Hi” to the cashier at the McDonald’s drive-thru.

Yet, it’s at these moments, when I calculate the savings for going just one more month without a car. Inside my head, I repeat, “yes you can, yes you can, it’s just a few more months, it’s a $300+ payment you don’t have to make .”

I tell myself, I’ll get a car soon, I just don’t know when soon is. Is it when the weather turns cold or I’m just tired of toting groceries in my backpack?  Right now, I just don’t know.

What I do know is that I saved nearly $2,000 by living without a car. My credit card says, “thank you.”

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Is Your Shrink Quoting The Stones?

thestonesMy favorite quote comes from The Rolling Stones. “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime you get what you need.”  Despite all those drugs Mick and Keith did in the 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, heck, I think they’re still doing them today, there’s a lot of wisdom in those few words.

Many people quote, “life’s a journey, not a destination.” While this is true, I find The Stones dig deeper.

If we always get what we want, then haven’t we skipped the journey for the destination without knowing for sure if that’s where we’re meant to be?

And if we try a little and get what we need, don’t we experience the journey in a richer, more grateful way, and end up in the right place? Aren’t we more fulfilled by surviving, achieving what we thought impossible, what we didn’t know existed, rather than being plopped into the destination without the scars and wisdom to show for our efforts?

I say this all because well, I really don’t know, I guess it’s the random shit that was in my head today and somehow made its way from there to here.  After all, it’s fluffy, philosophical BS we hear from every self-help guru in the western hemisphere. It’s nothing new, except, I doubt your shrink is quoting The Stones in your therapy sessions.

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New Celebrity Crush

jackdavenportDespite the fact that my Vampire Diaries crush, Ian Somerhalder, has recently changed his Facebook status from, “In a relationship,” to “Single,” prompting a search for an e-saver to Atlanta to pursue proper stalking, up, close and personal, I’ve found myself a new celebrity crush to split my time: Jack Davenport.

Of course, just when I find him, I will lose him.  His character, Derek Wills, is on track to close out his run on Smash as NBC puts a nail in the coffin of this spectacular show that is totally underrated and misunderstood. I beg NBC to keep Smash on the air!! Until then, I’ll soak up my time with Jack and Derek.

Fortunately, Ian and Damon will be back in September. I couldn’t bear to lose two fantasies at once.

 

 

 

 

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