Every Tuesday night, I’m doubled over in laughter at the quotes rattled off by Glee’s, Sue Sylvester. This woman hates anything and anyone who gets in her way of winning year- after -year cheerleading national chamiponships.
Sue once dated Rob from the local news, but for the most part I believe Sue has resigned to her fate as a single woman. And then I wondered what would happen if Sue set up an online dating profile on one of the many sites that are advertised during a Saturday marathon of “Say Yes to the Dress?”
I often criticize internet dating. I just don’t believe it’s real. It comes across as forced and trying too hard. You have to put the person you want to be out there versus the person you really are. This usually means a generic profile that says you like movies, hanging out with friends, traveling and listening to jazz. Doesn’t everyone say the same thing in their quest to say something different? A dating paradox.
But what if someone like a Sue, just put it out there and said what she wanted without a filter? Throughout school, growing up, even in the corporate world, we’re taught to be careful with our words. We’re taught to not offend and to think before we speak. Now maybe that’s appropriate for your professional life, but when did that become okay for your personal life? When did sounding like everyone else become the standard for finding true love or at a minimum a fun date for Saturday night. Shouldn’t we be who we are and say what we mean? I’m convinced that the dating world, both on and offline needs more of this.
If you’re honest about who you are and say what you want, then aren’t your chances better that you’ll eliminate the crap and get better results? Frankly, I don’t want to be bothered with the crap. I’d rather watch a 10 hours of Buffy on Saturday than be bothered with the equivalent of Sue Sylvester’s, Will Schuster, a man Sue despises spending any time with.
So my question is, if you put it out there, say what you mean, say what you want, will men gravitate toward that or against it?
Look at a few of Sue’s quotes and you decide:
“I’m tough, I’m ambitious and if that makes me a bitch, that’s what I am.”
“..simply put, you have all the sexuality of all those pandas down at the zoo, who refuse to mate.
” I always thought the desire to procreate showed deep personal weakness.”
“All I want is just one day a year when I’m not visually assaulted by uglies and fatties.
“I don’t trust a man with curly hair. I can’t help but picture little birds laying sulfurous eggs in there, and it disgusts me.