Defining Soul Mates

I often have discussions with girlfriends on the existence of soul mates, and what does the concept of soul mates mean. It seems our beliefs in their existence is as varied as how each of us defines it.

Even good ole’ Webster has a hard time defining it, simply stating, “a person with whom one has a strong affinity.” So if Webster can narrow down this complex concept in nine short words, why is it that as humans we struggle to see it in others?

The other day, I rediscovered a passage from Eat, Pray, Love, which for me, seems to best define what I believe a true soul mate is.

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…”
— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)