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Life Lessons Learned from Buffy

Life Lessons Learned from Buffy

One hundred episodes, seven seasons, 43 minutes an episode adds up to one year of Buffy watching.  This weekend, I came to the end of  my Buffy adventures, and said good-bye to Buffy, Zander, Willow, Giles and  ex-villain, turned-good vampire, Spike.

As the world waited to discover if a crazy dude in California’s predictions of the world ending were going to come true, I curled up in my big chair and half and escaped to Sunnydale where Buffy and team were on their own mission to save the world from the apocalypse.

In case you haven’t seen the series, I won’t tell you if they save the world or not,  but I will share a few life lessons I learned during my journey through the mystical world of superheroes, demons and vampires.

1. Good always overcomes evil.

2. See the good in everyone. What’s on the surface does not mirror what’s on the inside.

3. People, even vampires can change.

4. Have a support system and know their strengths. You can’t survive without your friends having your back.

5. Be on guard and prepared to battle for what you know is right. There are people out there who don’t like you and want you to fail.

6. Knowledge is power. Do your research and know the risks to what you’re facing.

7. Even when it appears the whole world is against you, believe in yourself. You will find an inner strength you didn’t know you had.

Risk, Love, Rejection & Vampires

Risk, Love, Rejection & Vampires

I’ve been thinking a lot about  risk, love and rejection.  After all, there may be a reason that I’m still single:  I’m terrified to “put myself out there.” I never really knew what “putting yourself out there”  meant, however, recently I’ve decided to define it as:  finding someone you like or could like and telling them, or better yet, showing them your true feelings and interest. Simply, I suck at this. Instead, I retreat, appear aloof and pray that he’ll figure it out on his own that I do like them. All this, so I can avoid rejection.  With age;  however, I realize that the fear of rejection may render you alone with an ageing cat and a TiVo remote. Yes, folks I’m pointing the finger at me. I’m guilty! I’ve never “put myself out there.”

So last Thursday (my vampire date night), I was inspired by the risk that Caroline took to not only tell Matt how she felt, but to show him. Although she struggled to find the words, she found the song, that showed Matt that she cared, that she was still there,  and that despite her being a vampire and Matt a mere mortal, she still had feelings beyond wanting to suck the blood out of him.

Now, if I could only sing.

The Academy of Amy, Presents Top Films

The Academy of Amy, Presents Top Films

oscarIt’s Oscar night, and it’s got me thinking about those films that I never tire of and never fail to plant me into the depths of my sofa as a Saturday reserved for errands eludes me in favor of faraway places and unforgettable characters. So today, The Academy of Amy, presents my Top 10 nominees for Best Picture.

10. Sixteen Candles. Maybe not an Oscar-worthy movie, but this movie is a Gen X classic. Of course, I blame this movie for planting the seed that all your dreams come true at the naive age of 16, and that the most popular, best-looking guy in school would whisk me away in his red Porsche. Yep, this did not happen and all expectations went south from that point forward.

9. The Queen. A sucker for British royalty, I love this portrayal of Queen Elizabeth II. It made me appreciate the old bitty who refuses to let Charles be King. She’s more a complex woman than I had initially gave her credit.

8. Bridget Jone’s Diary. Only single women can appreciate the beauty of this film. We all struggle with our weight, drink too much and can’t figure out men. Bridget Jones is my soul mate.

7. Terms of Endearment. This is my go-to movie for when I need to cry. It never fails me.

6. The King’s Speech. Just saw this film three days ago and fell in love. And finally, a Colin Firth film in which I don’t see him as Mr. Darcy.

5. St. Elmo’s Fire. I wouldn’t be an X-‘er if I didn’t include a film from the Brat Pack. Seven college graduates trying to figure out what it means to be a grown up sucks me in every time. They could do a sequel to this film and I predict they’d all still be trying to figure it out.

4. A Beautiful Mind. Overcoming the voices of the mind, John Nash discovers “It’s only in the mysterious equation of love that any logical reasons can be found. I’m only here tonight because of you. You are the only reason I am… you are all my reasons.” Ahhh…. this gives me hope that love can conquer all.

3. Gone with the Wind. A born and raised southerner, I’d be banned south of the Mason/Dixon line if I didn’t love this Civil War epic.

2. Dr. Zhivago. Is it better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Only Lara and Yuri truly know. Every time I watch this, I still can’t figure out if that was Lara walking on the street.

1. The Sound of Music. If you know me at all, this is not a surprise. A love story, WWII, singing kids, an incredible soundtrack and score, and  an escape from the Nazis makes for a great family film, and my favorite.

Sue Sylvester, an Online Dating Guide?

Sue Sylvester, an Online Dating Guide?

001dht41Every Tuesday night, I’m doubled over in laughter at the quotes rattled off by Glee’s, Sue Sylvester. This woman hates anything and anyone who gets in her way of winning year- after -year cheerleading national chamiponships.

Sue once dated Rob from the local news, but for the most part I believe Sue has resigned to her fate as a single woman. And then I wondered what would happen if Sue set up an online dating profile on one of the many sites that are advertised during a Saturday marathon of “Say Yes to the Dress?”

I often criticize internet dating. I just don’t believe it’s real. It comes across as forced and trying too hard. You have to put the person you want to be out there versus the person you really are. This usually means a generic profile that says you like movies, hanging out with friends, traveling and listening to jazz. Doesn’t everyone say the same thing in their quest to say something different? A dating paradox.

But what if someone like a Sue, just put it out there and said what she wanted without a filter? Throughout school, growing up, even in the corporate world, we’re taught to be careful with our words.  We’re taught to not offend and to think before we speak. Now maybe that’s appropriate for your professional life, but when did that become okay for your personal life? When did sounding like everyone else become the standard for finding true love or at a minimum a fun date for Saturday night. Shouldn’t we be who we are and say what we mean? I’m convinced that the dating world, both on and offline needs more of this.

If you’re honest about who you are and say what you want, then aren’t your chances better that you’ll eliminate the crap and get better results? Frankly, I don’t want to be bothered with the crap. I’d rather watch a 10 hours of Buffy on Saturday than be bothered with the equivalent of Sue Sylvester’s, Will Schuster, a man Sue despises spending any time with.

So my question is, if you put it out there, say what you mean, say what you want, will men gravitate toward that or against it?

Look at a few of Sue’s quotes and you decide:

“I’m tough, I’m ambitious and if that makes me a bitch, that’s what I am.”

“..simply put, you have all the sexuality of all those pandas down at the zoo, who refuse to mate.

” I always thought the desire to procreate showed deep personal weakness.”

“All I want is just one day a year when I’m not visually assaulted by uglies and fatties.

“I don’t trust a man with curly hair. I can’t help but picture little birds laying sulfurous eggs in there, and it disgusts me.

90210 Day

90210 Day

It’s a once in a lifetime day!  Never again will the calendar date coincide with the zip code every teenager and young adult moved to every Monday night for 1o years. Kelly, Brenda, Brandon, Donna and bad boy Dylan never let us down in their adventures through high school, college, and the real world. In typical Aaron Spelling form, 90210 hit hard issues: teen pregnancy scares, lost virginity, drunk driving, strung out parents and the never-ending desire to be popular. However, the scene I remember most was not of the after-school special variety, but something much more tragic–my BFF wearing the same dress to prom. Check out Kelly and Brenda and their “Bobbsie Twin” outfits.