Lately I’ve noticed that “the” is all over entertainment. In a world of high creative-types, I’m bewildered on the blandness of the “The” statement. It’s a cop out for being original in the hopes that the latest “The” will be the next daytime hit (aka The View) or in the case of movies, an Oscar nod (aka: The GodFather, The Graduate, The Exorcist, The Insider).
Yet, there’s something about the most recent boom of “The’s” that doesn’t ring in my ear, success.
After all, once upon a time there was a little web project, named, The Facebook. Makes me wonder if dropping “the” helped it’s cause to become a worldwide phenomenon? Just a thought.
After a lack luster season, Grey’s delivered a finale that made me pause to ponder the question: Is it better to be alone than to risk catastrophic damage in which we’re never the same?
Love makes us vulnerable and dependent, we like it, it feels good, it’s a drug we want more of. But when we’re drugged to enjoy the high, can we survive when we no longer have the fix? Isn’t easier to just say “no” to be alone and say not me, I’m not gonna risk it? Maybe, maybe, not, I really don’t know. I do know that no one truly wants to be alone, yet it’s not always a choice.
One hundred episodes, seven seasons, 43 minutes an episode adds up to one year of Buffy watching. This weekend, I came to the end of my Buffy adventures, and said good-bye to Buffy, Zander, Willow, Giles and ex-villain, turned-good vampire, Spike.
As the world waited to discover if a crazy dude in California’s predictions of the world ending were going to come true, I curled up in my big chair and half and escaped to Sunnydale where Buffy and team were on their own mission to save the world from the apocalypse.
In case you haven’t seen the series, I won’t tell you if they save the world or not, but I will share a few life lessons I learned during my journey through the mystical world of superheroes, demons and vampires.
1. Good always overcomes evil.
2. See the good in everyone. What’s on the surface does not mirror what’s on the inside.
3. People, even vampires can change.
4. Have a support system and know their strengths. You can’t survive without your friends having your back.
5. Be on guard and prepared to battle for what you know is right. There are people out there who don’t like you and want you to fail.
6. Knowledge is power. Do your research and know the risks to what you’re facing.
7. Even when it appears the whole world is against you, believe in yourself. You will find an inner strength you didn’t know you had.
I’ve been thinking a lot about risk, love and rejection. After all, there may be a reason that I’m still single: I’m terrified to “put myself out there.” I never really knew what “putting yourself out there” meant, however, recently I’ve decided to define it as: finding someone you like or could like and telling them, or better yet, showing them your true feelings and interest. Simply, I suck at this. Instead, I retreat, appear aloof and pray that he’ll figure it out on his own that I do like them. All this, so I can avoid rejection. With age; however, I realize that the fear of rejection may render you alone with an ageing cat and a TiVo remote. Yes, folks I’m pointing the finger at me. I’m guilty! I’ve never “put myself out there.”